I have been a Chicagoan for almost 5 months now and it has been such an incredible experience. I have met so many amazing, talented, and passionate people and it’s been so inspiring to be fully amerced in the atmosphere. I feel like being single in a new city has been such a great opportunity to really get to know yourself. But why does it seem like people in their twenties are so focused on settling down and being in a relationship?
Being single is such a liberating state. You don’t have to answer to anyone, you don’t want to coordinate your schedules. What you want to do at any given moment you can go and do. I have loved living each day as a fresh start to check another thing off my bucket list. Every weekend I try to explore another piece of the city.
Being single also gives you the opportunity to focus on your own physical and mental health. So often I feel like we get so wrapped up our partner and we forget what we truly need. Being single allows me to go and take workout classes whenever I want, turn off my phone and just write or read. I can dance around my apartment in my underwear if I want. You can do everything that makes you happy.
Your twenties are the time of your to make mistakes and try new thing. When you are single this allows you to make those mistakes. Be a little adventurous and take risks you wouldn’t be comfortable doing any other time.
I think what I love about being alone in this city is the opportunity to challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone and do things that might be a little scary. I use to hate the idea of eating out alone and honestly its one of my favorite things to do now. I love trying new restaurants and going alone really gives you the time to appreciate your own company. Other activities that are exciting to do alone are going to a concert, travel to a bucket list destination, or if you’re bold go to a cool bar alone.
Of course being single also gives you the opportunity to meet new people. Go on dates, let someone else show you around. Get to know how the locals see your new city and have the opportunity to explore new hidden gems.
If you are recently ended a relationship this time being single also allows you to heal. You don’t have to rush into something new, really dig into your hobbies, friends
Finally and probably most importantly, you can get an amazing night sleep! Being single means you don’t have to share a bed! You can completely sprawl out every night, wear that zit cream and watch a movie if you want to.
What’s your favorite part of being single? What do you love about your relationship?